Posted by Seminal Wellness Team on 1/1/2023 to News
It's that time of year. Yeah, we're all setting our New Year resolutions. But, just as we're gearing up for our resolutions, we also can't wait to see how quickly we'll break them. How about we make this year different? Let's finally set resolutions—and meet them. It comes down to pursuing goals your passionate about; setting intermediate objectives; setting timelines; and, giving yourself the permission to change strategies. We'll target psychological, wellness, financial, and spiritual goals below.
1. Raise your creativity
This may not be the most common New Year resolution; but, raising your creativity—and devising different approaches—is the key to accomplishing any goal, no matter how ambitious, and no matter the obstacles. So, how can you expand your imagination? Be willing to view issues from different perspectives and always be up, even enthusiastic, about going outside your comfort zone. One aspect of creativity that is often overlooked is letting yourself be, even if it's just a few moments to yourself. No matter the deadline, how the kids may be clamoring, and how many alerts are blowing up, even just a few seconds of stillness allows the Inspiration in. And, it isn't "crazy" if you have a plan. The best ideas are often those that people were too scared to think of. Here are some tips:
- See it another way, put yourself in another's shoes
- Each day, find something new
- Never sacrifice a few moments to yourself
You can turn fantasy into the fantastic.
2. Improve your health
Now, let's go to among the most common—and, most important—resolutions. Improving your health, in today's parlance, is often a euphemism for losing weight or another euphemism, "getting fit." But, let's go beyond a number on a scale or clothing size. Let's consider lifestyle habits that we actually help you be healthier. First, don't use food as an emotional crutch—to calm you down when it gets hectic, to soothe you when it's painful, or even to further excite you when it's time to celebrate; hold food, first, and foremost, as a yes, ideally, flavorful way to nourish yourself. Second, make time for physical activity, even if just a few minutes, each day. You don't have to go hard; but, make sure you do go. Taking the stairs, or a quick walk around the apartment or house, can do. Third—and, perhaps, most importantly—de-stress. No problem or pressure is that formidable with a clear perspective. A few moments of deep breathing and even focusing on what you can do will help. Plus, high stress amplifies your cortisol levels which can lead to cravings and overeating, and depression. Here are a few other suggestions:
- Plan meals (pack a healthy snack) so you won't be compelled to grab anything on the go
- Pick an exercise routine you like and can stick to
- Don't be overcome by challenges; think about ways to get through and what you can learn
Guess what? With this attitude, all you've always wanted—the optimal weight, your clothes fitting better, etc.—will actually happen, and you'll achieve the most important goal: you'll be better.
3. Embrace challenges, build new skills
This resolution is actually linked to the above two; embracing challenges fuels your creativity, and in expanding your imagination and building new skills, you can proactively implement ways to improve your health and wellness. Embracing challenges can be scary; but, there are smaller, manageable ways, to do this. For instance, if you're very artistic and always steered clear of "technical stuff," brush up on your math skills. Yes, algebra can make sense. And, you can even handle calculus (or discrete math ;-) ). Conversely, if you're "left-brained" and don't do the artistic stuff, take a photography or painting class. Try writing a song. And, it's never been easier to pick up new skills and learn something new. From Tik Toks, to YouTube, to Masterclass—and even an informative article—you are never more than a few clicks from a transformative or empowering lesson. It also bears mentioning that the most artistic disciplines, including music and painting, are, at heart, quite technical (analyze any DaVinci work), bridging both left- and right-brained skills. And, if we think about it, isn't that what creativity, resourcefulness, and invention truly are? The "magic" lies in using both sides of your brain, and leveraging the superb whole.
- View challenges as opportunities: These are your chances to be better
- You don't know how to do it—yet. Take advantage of resources.
- You're smart enough, strong enough, and worthy enough to do the hard stuff too.
These suggestions won't quite prepare you if the worst happens. But, what about if it does? These last few years have forced all of us to face disruption, uncertainty, and tragedy, all at our personal levels. Many of us have faced the worst. Even when that does happen, confront it. Get through the worst, and be proud of how you've grown, and what you've learned. When you are faced with a challenge, count yourself lucky. You've been given the chance to realize how great you can be. Enduring confidence only comes from overcoming even greater challenges.
4. Save more money
Saving, and making, more money only comes right behind being healthier on most resolution list. You likely won't get to a billion within a year; but, you can make solid progress toward your financial goals. Have, and keep, to savings goals from week to week (it doesn't matter how modest it is, $20, $200, etc.). Think about the expenses you really need. Do you need all those streaming subscriptions (you know the answer...)? The daily pick me up from your favorite coffee shop gives you a little reprieve, but can't you go without it? And, isn't it time to invest? With new apps, you can even invest with less than $100. And, despite the scandals, crypto is still a worthy option. One is actually endorsed by the SEC, and there are some with notable management teams. As always, do your research and due diligence. Saving even $30 a week will give you over $1,500 by the end of the year. The other way to get more money is to make more money. Yes, this is an endorsement of the side hustle, that, preferably, is emotionally rewarding for you. And, that side hustle—especially, elevating it with your unique touch—can become a business, and your main source of income. Just make sure you have some support, people who are passionate about your products. This gives you a ready market (social always helps you build this too). Don't be deterred by the stats of the ones who don't make it; believe you'll be among those who will. These are other tips that have helped us:
- Outline your needs and how you'll pursue them each week (at least 2 approaches for each); hint, hint weekly saving
- Eliminate the extras (subscriptions, extra nights out, etc.)
- Embrace the side hustle, and see how you can elevate it
There are free and low-cost apps that can help you set goals and make strong progress toward your dreams. There's also something we often forget to say: no. No, you won't hang out with your friends this weekend. No, you won't get that dress or those kicks (yet). No, you won't let a (not even likely, definitely) awesome night, derail your long-held dream. You may be saying no to others; but, you're saying an unequivocal yes to your dreams and aspirations. Your true loved ones will understand that.
5. Be grateful for what, and all, you have
At the core of all, successful, New Year resolutions is being grateful for the progress you've made and for what you have. Yes, you can always have done more, gone farther, and pushed harder; but, be proud of what you have actually done. Chances are, you further developed a skill and found a new source of strength. In looking, and rejoicing, over what you were able to accomplish, you have a strong foundation to do more, and finally accomplish those big dreams. These are ways to revel in gratitude:
- Start, and end, each day with 3 things for which you are grateful
- Surround yourself with those who are also grateful, and support each other
- Build on these pillars of gratitude for future success
Great accomplishments are nothing more than a series of sturdy steps. Whether it's taking control of your health, getting your degree, or writing that book, take the first, even small, step today.
6. Expand your connectedness, that which is beyond yourself
Whether it is God, a Higher Power, or an ineffable, but just as glorious, concept, connecting to that which is beyond yourself is integral to the fulfillment of any resolution. Making this connection not only gives you the strength to pursue your goal and fortifies your resolve—particularly, in the face of inevitable challenges—it also motivates you, reminding you that the chance to change your life, and those of others, makes any resolution worth fulfilling. As you pursue your resolution, you are also building a legacy. And, as we can discern, going beyond yourself means engaging with your community. This can mean serving as a mentor, giving blood, volunteering at a soup kitchen, or countless other ways to make an impact. Yes, connecting with the Source is not restricted to the walls of a religious institution; it is demonstrated by deed. Your values must drive your actions. Here are other ways you can forge, and nurture, that Connection:
- Ensure your practice displays your principle
- Make a positive impact everyday (no matter how small it may seem to you)
- Check in with those around you (even those always seem "ok")
In connecting to, and aligning with, the Source, we must also practice forgiveness. We have to forgive ourselves for the missteps and the setbacks. If we don't quite meet our goal for the day, the week, the month—or, yes, even the year—we have to look past the mistakes, and get back on the path. We have to firmly question why we didn't meet the goal though. Do we need to set a schedule? Do we need to devote more resources? Do we even need new sources of support? There are times when we need to change our peer group, and we often need to expand our network. However, that forgiveness also needs to be extended to others. Even for those who have hurt you, forgive them, and let them back in if the demonstrate their integrity and their loyalty. Forgiveness is not for others as much as it is for yourself. When we let the Light in, we can illuminate others.
Happy New Year!
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I've never looked at challenges like that before. You can't change what happened (I've lost some people these last few years), but you can control how you react. I hope I can go with that perspective throughout the year. Thanks for the refreshing outlook. Happy New Year!
Seminal Wellness Team
Thanks for the comment Maura. Yes, you can carry that positive outlook throughout this whole year--and the rest of your life. We've endured tragedies these last few years too--so many of us have--but we all need to live our lives even more purposefully, in tribute to those we have lost, and the Light that Guides us each day. We're sending you peace, joy, and wisdom. Happy New Year!
I usually hit a wall like mid January. By February, I've basically forgotten my resolutions. How do I keep the momentum?
Seminal Wellness Team
This is the billion-dollar question Ben. Thanks for asking. You have to remember your "why"--each day. And, you have to constantly remind yourself why, "your why," is so important, to you, the ones you love, and your community. No matter how hectic it gets--or the disappointment and pain that will certainly come during the year (even the first week of January)--your "why" will always be greater. And, you'll always be worth it. You deserve the glory that fulfilling your resolutions will bring. We can't wait to see the better you!
Day 6 and I'm still on it :-D But, I know I'm thisclose to breaking. Mine is staying away from sugar. Are there easier ways to avoid it?
Seminal Wellness Team
Thanks so much Lily and Samantha. Those are excellent questions that we should all be asking. Let us start by saying that we all need sugar. Glucose is a key energy source and building block for our body. But, we have to have the unrefined kind. Fresh fruits and vegetables all have sugar, the unrefined kind of course; so, as always, they should be a staple of your diet. Similarly, beans, seeds, and legumes--once they're unprocessed--are also safe sugar, and nutritional, sources. Once you're not allergic, nuts are another excellent source. In any case--including for those with celiac disease or for those following gluten-free diets--beans, seeds, and legumes are optimal. For those with celiac disease, or who are following gluten-free diets, fresh and raw foods are still the best choice, but we want to be more selective. Along with the recommendations above, eggs (particularly egg whites); lean and unprocessed meats; and most low-fat dairy products (please check the labels for ingredients though) are suitable. Satisfactory grains for a gluten-free diets include buckwheat, amaranth, flax, tapioca, and millet (among others). Low-sugar grains that should be avoided for a gluten-free diet include barley, some oats, rye, triticale (a combination of wheat and rye), and wheat. Please, always, diligently read the labels. You can also reach out to us with more questions. I hope this helps.
That's part of mine too. I know about avoiding processed foods, but what are specific foods I should eat?
I'm liking the save money part (getting the Christmas bills now...) and the being grateful for all you have. It sounds like taking time to connect with yourself is part of it. It gets really hectic. How can I still do that?
Seminal Wellness Team
Thanks for getting in touch Oscar. Yes, taking time for yourself is a huge part of being grateful for all you have, and what you've done. We mentioned the reflection part and surrounding yourself with supportive, grateful, people in the post; but, just as importanatly, is making time for your interests, hobbies, and passions. Do the things that make you feel like "you," at least once weekly, even with family, the job, and practical pressures. You can always find reasonable, economical ways to enjoy yourself and connect with what inspires you. And, that does link back to the money part...always "budget" for your dreams and happiness. You can even make a (flexible) budget each week with these categories--"needs," "wants," and "dreams." And, be honest with yourself, and don't be afraid to question items. You might be surprised...the "need" may turn out not to be one, or at least be negotiable. The "needs" HAVE to be fulfilled; the wants you can indulge in at least monthly (if you choose to, but they can keep you going); and, the "dreams" you steadily invest toward, on a weekly or monthly basis. Hope that helps. Oscar, make it a great year!
Honestly, I'm checking this once a day ;-) This might be the year I keep to them. I really liked the part about having the right people around you. My friends are definitely keeping me up. How do we keep each other motivated?
Seminal Wellness Team
Thanks for the question Jessica. Yes, it's one thing to get motivated; but, it's a whole other thing to stay motivated. And, motivating your friends will only bolster your motivation. Get together, at least once a month, to celebrate your victories, even the smallest gains (that are never that small). Reach out on social, via text, etc. to congratulate friends or follow up on progress. Your friend may have a word that'll get you through a challenge or you can play that role for someone else. We would also recommend setting joint challenges or goals, when you can, to always have support--and to keep each other accountable. These suggestions have all been helpful to our team. Thanks again for the question.
Whatever... People need practical advice. You have a lot of products, it's easy to post this. People need real solutions. How about people struggling?
Seminal Wellness Team
Thanks for this question Jake. There were some concrete suggestions provided. Saving every week and eliminating unnecessary expenses actually provide substantial gains, quickly. Boosting your creativity and connecting to that which is beyond yourself may seem like "pie-in-the-sky" stuff; but, they lead to the inspiration, energy, as and focus that enables you to craft novel, and, idely, more effective solutions, or pursue overlooked possibilities. Our founder, Arziki Oleyinka Phenyo, started Seminal Wellness in response to the frustration she experienced in the throes of the pandemic, not. being able to obtain quality goods because of stockout ls and supply shortages. She didn't wallow in the frustration; she decided to pay it forward. Building and growing Seminal Wellness has not been an easy effort. Like you, and everyone else, these last few years have been tragic and challenging. Our team has lost 18 family and friends to COVID-19; 3 lost their jobs before joining our team; and, one even lost their home (our team member is safe now). On three occasions, we considered not continuing. We shed our tears. But, instead of asking "Why me?" we committed to asking, "Why not me?" For us, that meant, "How could we do better?," and how could we learn from these experiencew, including the most heartwrenching and tumultuous ones. We can imagine you've been through your challenges Jake. We also know you've grown through these. What lessons could you share with us? We would all benefit. All the suggestions we include are those that have, practically , worked for us. And, we'll continue to share the tips and takeaways. Thanks again for the question.
Thanks for the suggestions. What are your tips for setting really ambitious goals, going beyond your comfort zone?
Seminal Wellness Team
That's an excellent question Suman. Actually, setting ambitious goals--and going even way beyond your comfort zone--is part of serving that which is beyond yourself, tip #6. As we told another member of the fam, work diligently, and consistently, toward the "dream" goals; e.g., write at least 10 pages per week for your manuscript, apply for at least 3 grants monthly for the non-profit you'd like to start, save at least $100 per week toward your new business and set up your social media accounts, and website, today. Surrounding yourself with motivated people, who are also invested in your project, is key for gathering the resources you need to fulfill your goals, and to support you through the challenging times (there will be inevitable setbacks). Of course, you want to keep tabs on your progress. This is important for accountability; but, even more importantly, this gives you a chance to change direction and approach--to make adjustments--to ensure you do achieve your goals. Whatever goal you have, the Universe has set an even greater one ;-) Pursue your potential. Thanks again for the question.
This was great advice! It's the 18th and I'm still on track. It takes a month to set a habit. I think I'll do it this year :-D
Seminal Wellness Team
You're already doing it Taisha :-D Congratulations on your progress, and thanks for the feedback.
Thanks. The one that's a little scary is going outside your comfort zone. Things are uncertain...I don't think I can take the fallout. I do appreciate the perspective though.
Seminal Wellness Team
Thanks for the response Roman. Yeah, it's uncertain out there, and going out of your comfort zone--whether it's in undertaking a new workout routine, pursuing a new field of study, starting a new business, etc.--is always daunting. But, here's a little secret: it's always uncertain. There's never a perfect time to do anything. Actually, there is: when you're positive, prepared, and keep your perspective, it's always the right time. And, above all, once you're open--you're asking for help, but not demanding how it comes--the Source will always guide you. Please, go out your comfort zone. It's well worth it.